The Seven Principles of Self Love ~ Principle #2: Take Care of Your Mind
March 22, 2016 | by Michelle Meier
When we come back to self love, everything else falls into place. You are signaling to the Universe that you are open and ready to receiving love, joy and abundance. But what does it really mean to love yourself? How do you actually do it??
How often have you heard, "love yourself" or "you cannot love anyone else until you learn to love yourself"? Yet so many of us struggle with loving ourselves. I hear this from women so often and I imagine that men must struggle with it, too; it's just not a socially accepted conversation for the male gender.
I've been doing all this work on myself over the past year, trying to find answers to "how can I get the love, marriage and family that I want?", "how can I be successful doing what God ordained me to do?" and so many other "how's" whose answers seemed to keep evading me no matter how much progress I made in learning about my ego and why I have the beliefs I have.
A new friend of mine who has incredible psychic abilities channeled my mom who died three years ago. My mom had a very powerful message for me. She revealed that the only reason I haven't quite achieved everything I've been dreaming of and have been working towards is because I need to stop seeking answers outside of myself and come back to loving myself. That was all. Learn to love myself.
I was on the couch across from my friend and I sat there utterly floored. Well that seemed so simple!! Until my friend left and I was left to my own thoughts and I asked myself, "well, Michelle, do I love myself?"
I didn't know how to respond.
I realized it was because I didn't quite understand what that meant, to love myself. Stumped, I did what anybody with a burning question does nowadays. I Googled it. Yup. "How do I love myself?"
And then it hit me, as if from above or perhaps from within. THE 7 PRINCIPLES OF SELF LOVE struck me like a bolt of lightning and, as promised to you, I'm sharing with you my journey each week with one new principle.
This week: PRINCIPLE #2:
TAKE CARE OF YOUR MIND. According to the National Science Foundation, our brains produce more than 50,000 thoughts per day. What a mind-boggling thought, huh? What kinds of thoughts are you feeding yourself?
Do you find yourself harping on negative thoughts, fears, anger, hurt, pain, judgments and criticism? Do you often think you don't have enough this or you aren't enough that? Try replacing them with thoughts of love, joy, prosperity and abundance.
I put Post-It notes everywhere (my night table, my bathroom mirror, my car, etc.) to remind myself that my thoughts and words create my reality. Plus I set a reminder on my phone that chimes in every 2 hours asking if I'm thinking thoughts of love and abundance.
When I catch myself starting to head down a path of negative thoughts, sometimes I distract myself to look at a beautiful tree outside or an interesting cloud in the sky or a pretty flower on my desk. Then I can more easily come back to positive thoughts that support the kind of life I want to create for myself.
Affirmations work great but you also have to BELIEVE them. Do you believe you're a good person? Do you believe you're worthy of love, happiness and success? If you notice resistance coming up, then that's a great place to start.
Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life" is a powerful yet simple book to help with this. I've used it to guide myself on this journey back to self love.
It's challenging to catch ourselves in our thoughts. They can be so insidious at times. And we're IN our thoughts, IN our minds almost all the time. It's said "the last thing a fish would notice is water."
This is why I signed up for and am about to graduate Landmark's Curriculum for Living. It helped me step back and separate all the stories I've created around the events throughout my life. It showed me how attached I've been to detrimental beliefs like "I'm not good enough" so that I could let all that go.
In no way, do negative thought patterns and beliefs serve our highest good.
Daily meditation is now something I've started practicing as well. It helps me be a witness to my thoughts and detach myself from them to be present. When we are present, we are open to life's magic.
So become aware of what thoughts and beliefs you've been feeding yourself. It's not that we can ever get rid of our thoughts but WE are the masters of our own minds and we should be nourishing them with love and joy.
Love your mind. Love yourself.
"Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results."